
My daughter’s birthday just arrived and, as I always like to do around that time of year, I pulled out our old VHS tapes to watch the her as a baby. I find it fun to see how far she has come—a subtle reminder of how fast they grow up. This year was a particularly stark contrast for me. I had just finished a Father’s Day weekend of soccer in
In those first very difficult and struggling attempts to find the balance to stand and learn to walk I could have never imagined the athlete she had become. It was a process that had to unfold at its own rate.
I found myself in a presentation with an entrepreneur a just a few days ago. He was outlining the entire vision of his company ten years out. I listened hoping that he might be the first person to be able to successfully do it. There were huge gaps of inconsistency, assumptions, and unknowns. As we talked more, it was obvious that he was struggling with defining, confidently, the entire thing.
I stopped him. I shared with him the analogy that I had discovered when building my third company. “I like your premise and the direction of your company. You don’t have to build the entire castle on day one”, I said, “If you can build a turret, or a turret and a wall and prove that it works as intended, then you can start to build out the other features of a full castle down the road.”
I realized that it paralleled my daughter’s baby steps. She didn’t need to be able to run up and down the soccer field passing a soccer ball at 11 months old—she just needed to learn to take steps and learn from each one.
The entrepreneur got the concept and seemed relieved not to have it all solved within his elevator pitch.
The other aspect that I gleaned from the video was the slow but steady repeated attempts my daughter made to ultimately be able to walk across the room without falling down. Instinctively she realized she just needed to keep at it; Not one or two bursts, but slow and steady progress towards her end goal.
It reminded me of my new approach to getting in shape. So many times in the past I started out
with a great 5 mile run only to then have over extended myself and end any hope of getting up to do it again the next day. It was easy to procrastinate and find excuses not to get out the door; “Don’t have 45 minutes, too cold, too warm, too cloudy, too sunny, wrong color shoes…”. This year, I took the new approach to run for just 15 minutes. I always have 15 minutes. It gets me out the door to run more consistently and stops the “I can’t do it right now” excuse hurdle. Once out there, I inevitably stay out longer. It is about the consistency of just doing it, day after day.Finally, a good friend of mine has been looking for work for awhile, I shared with him my “baby

steps, turret and consistency” approaches to life. “You don’t have to find the exact full time job that meets every one of your criteria on the first day. It is a hard economy out there, if you need to, just start the process with baby steps—it could be volunteering, taking a cube in a shared-office, or just being at a cross-roads somewhere where there is activity. Just don’t sit waiting to be able to run down the field without first learning to walk.
For entrepreneurs, job seekers, and other wanna-get-in-shape people like me, the desired end result will come—even with falls, bruises, cuts and everything else your subconscious remembers—and doesn’t want to remember-- from when you were 11 months old and learning to walk.





